Bridges Not Walls : A Book about Interpersonal Communication

by Stewart, John

• ISBN13: 9780073384993
• ISBN10: 0073384992
• Edition: 10th
• Format: Paperback
• Copyright: 2008-06-26
• Publisher: McGraw-Hill Humanities/Social Sciences/Languages

Summary

This anthology offers fifty-one scholarly and popular readings, that examine a broad range of topics about interpersonal relationships, drawing from such disciplines as communication, philosophy, social science, and psychology. The thought-provoking articles discuss the nature of interpersonal contact, connections between verbal and nonverbal cues, person perception, listening, identity management, gender and ethnic similarities and differences, communication about sex, defensiveness, power, bullying, transformational conflict management, cross-cultural communication, and dialogue. This tenth edition features 23 new readings, including a new chapter focused on listening and talking about sex.

Table of Contents

Foundations of Interpersonal Communication
Introduction to the Editor and to This Book	p. 3
Communication and Interpersonal Communication	p. 14
Communicating and Interpersonal Communicating	p. 15
Personal Relationships and Health	p. 41
Toward Study of the Consequentially (Not Consequences) of Communication	p. 52
Fierce Conversations	p. 53
Elements of the Interhuman	p. 62
Communication Building Identities	p. 79
Constructing Identities	p. 80
Maintaining the Self in Communication	p. 91
The Rudiments of Social Intelligence	p. 105
Forming Online Identities	p. 115
Deafness and the Riddle of Identity	p. 127
Verbal and Nonverbal Contact	p. 134
Verbal and Nonverbal Dimensions of Talk	p. 135
Paying Attention to Words	p. 160
Nonverbal Communication: Basic Perspectives	p. 166
Functions of Nonverbal Behavior	p. 183
Making Meaning Together
Inhaling: Perceiving and Listening	p. 195
Inhaling: Perception	p. 196
It's Only Skin Deep: Stereotyping and Totalizing Others	p. 212
Mindful Listening	p. 219
Empathic and Dialogic Listening	p. 225
Blackfeet Listening	p. 244
Exhaling: Expressing and Disclosing	p. 252
Being Open with and to Other People	p. 253
State My Path: How to Speak Persuasively, Not Abrasively	p. 262
I Want ...	p. 273
What to Tell: Deciding When, How, and What to Self-Disclose	p. 283
Relationships
Communicating with Family and Friends	p. 293
What's a Family, Anyway?	p. 294
Separating Messages from Metamessages in Family Talk	p. 303
Our Friends, Ourselves	p. 313
Mother-Daughter E-Mail and IM Communication	p. 326
Communicating with Intimate Partners	p. 335
Gendering the Conversation	p. 336
Gender and Ethnic Similarities and Differences in Relational Development	p. 342
Gendered Standpoints on Personal Relationships	p. 358
Romance in Cyberspace: Understanding Online Attraction	p. 365
Bridges not Walls
Coping with Communication Walls	p. 377
Deception, Betrayal, and Aggression	p. 378
Messages That Hurt	p. 390
Defensive Communication	p. 401
Power: The Structure of Conflict	p. 408
Bullying: Correlates of Verbally Aggressive Communication in Adolescents	p. 423
Conflict: Turning Walls into Bridges	p. 437
Conflict and Interaction	p. 438
Communication Spirals, Paradoxes, and Conundrums	p. 450
Handling the Break-Up of Relationships	p. 466
I Hear You, and I Have a Different Perspective	p. 474
How to Resolve Issues Unmemorably	p. 479
Bridging Cultural Differences	p. 489
Building Relationships with Diverse Others	p. 490
The Same and Different: Crossing Boundaries of Color, Culture, Sexual Preference, Disability, and Age	p. 502
When Black Women Talk with White Women: Why Dialogues Are Difficult	p. 520
Talking Can Stop Hate	p. 529
"Which Is My Good Leg?": Cultural Communication of Persons with Disabilities	p. 534
Promoting Dialogue	p. 548
What Makes Dialogue Unique?	p. 549
Dialogue's Basic Tension	p. 557
Fostering Dialogue Across Divides	p. 567
Turning Enemies into Friends	p. 577
Photo Credits	p. 585
Index	p. 587
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