How Do I Sexy? A Guide for Trans and Nonbinary Queers

What even is "sexy," and how the hell do you do it? A tough question for trans and nonbinary queers struggling to find their sexual selves in a landscape rife with misogynistic, transphobic and homophobic ideals and expectations. In How Do I Sexy?, Mx. Nillin Lore provides affirming and helpful direction based on over a decade of their own personal and professional experience as an educator, advocate, support worker and award-winning sex blogger. You're invited to do some deep introspection, find a look that feels right and gain insight on sexiness from fellow trans and nonbinary queers. You'll also find valuable tips on navigating dating sites, finding community, managing rejection with grace and engaging in sexual relationships. Principled and compassionate, Mx. Nillin Lore will help you figure out who you want to be, who you want to be with and how to make it happen— both in the streets and between the sheets.

Mx. Nillin Lore is a trans and queer activist, advocate, and educator based in Saskatoon, Saskatchewan. They have published queer erotica stories in a number of anthologies including Best Lesbian Erotica of the Year volumes 4– 6 and The Big Book of Orgasms Volume 2 (Cleis Press). They co-authorred a chapter of Trans Bodies, Trans Selves (Oxford University Press) and are the editor of Heckin' Lewd: Trans and Nonbinary Erotica and Emerging Selves: An Exploration of Gender Identity (Bold Strokes Books).